So do we match up… Are we aesthetically perfect? Stand there, look into the mirror? What comes to your head?? No… When I say stand in the mirror, I don’t mean, sit on your arse reading this! Come on get up! STRIP!!! If you cant.. Don’t bother reading on, until you can truly do this exercise! Im not writing this for fun, I’m writing it to help you, so girl please, work with me!

Stand there, lock the door if you need to, keep your knickers on if you have to, but just stand in front of the mirror, and close your eyes… Using both hands slide them over your breasts, down the sides of your waist, over your hips, round between your thighs, back up your tummy, round your breasts, upto your neck, don’t just brush over quickly, feel… Feel the softness of your skin, feel how amazing your breasts feel… Feel your curves melt into your hands, your tight grasp around your neck… This is you… All of you, feel, touch, stroke where you want to feel, keeping those eyes closed, making no noise, feel every inch of you, whatever shape and size you are, appreciate what you are feeling, you are a creation, your body an instrument, a machine built for sex, built for satisfying, built for creating, this amazing body of yours, all if it, in it’s entity, it’s you, it’s you the girl, you the woman, you the partner, you the mother. A body that’s not only lusted after by those so intimate, but a body you should lust after….think!!! Think!!! Spend at least five minutes, eyes closed enjoying your own touch.. Nothing to blush about, this is you! Why not enjoy you like others do, have and will!

This simple exercise, shouldn’t be done just because I write a blog about it, it should be done every day, call it a self hug, perfect in mornings, when we’re feeling tight, fresh and ready to start a day, starting a day aroused and ‘self hugged’ will set the tone for the day, what is so wrong as a human gifted with a fully functioning body, that we can’t take five minutes each morning, coincide it with your shower, bath,. How can others appreciate you, if you don’t appreciate yourself, You are a sexual being, you are on this planet for procreation, but you are also in this planet to enjoy.. We wouldn’t have our 5 senses, if we weren’t here to enjoy life.

So often as women, we find excuse after excuse to neglect ourselves, the only time we take the time to touch ourselves, is in front of men, what are we here to serve just them now? We’re alive, we are women, our bodies on loan to us for a blink of history, worship, adore the shell you have been given, nurture it, console it, enjoy it, because trust me.. It’s the best brain food you could ask for…

Once you have spent the time with your eyes closed, look into the mirror, because if you have completed this exercise fully, there will be 0 negative thoughts, about how you look and appear on the outside.

Rediscover your womanhood, when did you last masterbate? Oooh Ooops did I swear? Yes masterbate, the ultimate in self hugging, some of my very best orgasms, have actually been, with me, myself and I. Years ago when I first discovered vibrators, I would never allow my body to reach full maximum pleasure, whether it be fear, or whether I actually felt that the toe curling intense rise, was my orgasm over, I didn’t think I truly understood what an orgasm was, Until I discovered the “G spot Orgasm” , the ultimate… The orgasm that really does make u scream.. Wow! No faking that one! I think the first time as a woman I reached this, I jumped out of bed in tears and fell over, I then proceeded to call my best mate telling her I had pissed the bed, and I was convinced I was a freak, who would never ever touch myself, look at myself again! Well… That didn’t at long! Trying to diagnose myself on google with my bladder problem, made me realise that… Jeez, I’d had my first real orgasm at 27! I was now officially a woman!

Now being a new woman to the world, the only problem I had was with sex, it just didn’t do it for me, I had found what pleasure really was and there was no going back, It made me realise very quickly, that the sex I was having was all for the guys, the orgasm moans and groans had all been put on for show, to please a guy, the short breath was because most the guys I had encountered thought pounding their way through sex, really fucking turned me on!!! WRONG!!! Sorry guys, anyone pre 2009… I’m just struggling with, I’m sure I really liked you, well some of you, but sex changed for me… Now I focused on me, what really got me off!! What really got my back arching, what really got me crossing my legs in public, clenching my thighs.

The answer??? Personality, a real man, a man who put me in my place, a man who made me want him, lust him, want to fuck him 24/7, There is nothing sexier in this world than a man who acts like a man, a man who makes decisions, an honest man, a man who yearns you, gives you that look, that gives you a few seconds head start to the bedroom. It’s not about their body, the size of their cock, It’s about their persona, its how they say your name, the eye contact, the way they hold your neck, your body.

What makes a man hot… So hot, that even after years being together you till crave him like the day you met.. Because trust me those men do exist…