Over 60% of Single parents want to meet someone with children of a similar age to their own, makes sense right?

However only 15% of single people without children would consider dating people with children, and this statistic reduces further so as you get to know that person.

When it comes to dating, especially app dating, people are seduced by what they see, and who they are physically attracted to, this obviously leads to chatting and then dating, so at this stage, its all fun, all smiles, all flirting!! Perfect… surely!! For the single life of people without kids!!

Now throw into the mix, the guy or girl who starts to want more, but you only have a limited amount of time, you have your child half the week, and you do want to see them, but have to be realistic! Those with kids will be more understanding, and those without kids, will like you a lot, but eventually the jealousy and issues start to creep in! Its fact!

Any parents priority is their child, and unless someone has been through the same, they are not going to truly understand, and true colours do show. We cannot be angry with someone for not understanding, why they will always be number 2 in our life, and when we date someone without children, of course initially they will say the right things ‘I love kids’ , ‘I want to date someone with kids’ , because they look at us, like we are a good loving source, we are settled, and obviously mature, because we have kids, and on top of that they fancy us, and like us, so will say they will welcome our children, however over time, the lack of spontaneity can be a huge issue, we can’t just drop our weekends, we have to cancel dates if our little one is unwell, we can’t date certain nights, because our kids. There is a whole lot for someone without children, to understand, so whilst initially it may seem like a good choice, and we hope they will understand, sadly it rarely works.

Dating as a parent, is something new, we only know how to date pre-children, and its a while other ball game, it’s new, and a difficult process to navigate.

Pre children its all about the sex, the desire, the partying together, how good you look together, now after children, we want and need all that, but the tick list just went off the frikking scale. What we really have to look at is, is this person right for my child? Dating as a parent, is not just dating for ourselves, we are dating for our ‘family’ , we are trying to find a suitor that will fundamentally become a big part of our childs life. How do we even attempt to get this right? I mean this is a huge fucking thing right? How do we know this person is a good human being! The problem with dating these days, is I see it myself time and time again, with men, and the women I work with to, people always appear nice, but after a month or two , this can fade and the real them can show, and this is the concerning factor, and in addition to this, just because someone has kids, doesn’t make them a good person either. Sound like pressure? Jesus!

We go on the most amazing date, feel the chemistry, and physically want and desire this person, but they live a party life style, have no kids, but they look soooooo good, I bet they even feel, and taste so good, every part of you wants them, desires them, but think about it, before it gets too deep, too connected, is this person right for my child/ children.

As I sit here now as a single mother, dating actually makes me feel anxious at the best of times, but seriously thinking about it, I have to be a grown up, put my big girl pants on, and think right, im dating for the two of us kid, because this is our future! I want to and need it right to get! The odds are against me, where do I find a plus 35 year old male, a good dad, into the same interests, loyal, and has kids, and would accept my kid, all whilst being a good human, hot as hell and great in bed!

As single parents, This is reality.. talking about bed time wee practice, school runs, and temper tantrums… not everyone gets it! We want to date like we’re in our 20s again, we may want to fuck about like we missed out in our 20’s and 30’s, but we are parents, and whilst we are entitled to our time, we also need to ensure we are not leading some potential on, by getting a few months or dates in and deciding they are not right for our children. The game has changed now folks! It may be our desires match a 7 but the match for our kids is a 10, we have to grow up now, be wise, and leave our own needs second!

Welcome to single parent dating…